Don’t Walk Away From Negative People, RUN!

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Don’t Walk Away From Negative People, RUN!

Written by : Dayang Suzana Awang

It is importance that you spot negative people as soon as possible so that you can take appropriate action. Negative people will try to undermine your optimism in any way they can. There will bore you with bad tiding gossip, continuing to tell you negative things in their lives when you already know more about them than you care to know. If you hang around them for to long, they will influence you to start seeing nothing but grim and gloomy world.

Negative individuals think the whole world is against them. For some strange reason they want everyone else to experience the same thing. They are critics who know everything, or so they think. Negative people court others who will support them in their contention that the world is a lousy place. And once they know they can, they will stick to them like crazy glue to hair. Some of these people spend there entire lives making others miserable. They seem to be pleased with they effort for no justifiable reason.

One of the most endearing traits of negative people is their willingness to do anything in their powers to bring positive people down to their depressing level. Misery doesn’t only love company; it demands it. These people have an endless supply of hard-luck story capable of bringing down even the most enthusiastic and energetic people. You can bet that one of these negative people wrote the graffito: “You can never be paranoid. Someone may plot to make you happy.”

Nothing irks negative and unmotivated people more than individuals who are positive and successful. You may think that you can convince negative people to be remarkable positive like you. Reality says you probably won’t win many converts irrespective of how much effort you put into it. Accept that some people prefer to look the world from a perversely distorted point of view.

If you are good Samaritan who like to take on one or two screwed up people as a personal project, I must warn you about futility of this venture. Unless you can get these people to have personality transplants, all your effort will be in vain. Even if their happiness and survival are at stake, most negative people won’t change their nature. In his book, One, Richard Bach wrote: “No one can solve problems for someone whose problem is that they don’t want problems solved.”

Negative people will intrude into your life every chance they get. You have to be able to stop them before they get started. Otherwise, they will claim you owe them some of your time, they will claim you owe them favor, and some will even claim you owe them a living.

To eliminate the boredom and frustration that comes with being with negative people, you must take responsibility. The best strategy is to avoid people who bring out the worst in you. Try to direct them in one direction while you head off in the opposite one. If you somehow find yourself in the company of someone who regularly drains your energy, it’s not wise to stick around. Look for any means of rapid escape. Don’t walk away from negative people. RUN!